Wednesday, March 16, 2005

Other Tools to communicate

I have not yet tried emailing my mentee. She doesn't seem ready yet and right now she is more focused on learning powerpoint presentations. I may need to readjust my goals, but for now I will still move forward and hope that I will be able to help her with email. She did have her class on powerpoint and realized how easy it is to put a basic slide show together. Last Back-to-School Night, I put our presentation together. Now, that she knows the basics of powerpoint, she can put a slideshow together for Open House and that way we can alternate presenting. Well, maybe that isn't the best idea, but at least she can teach her students the basics.

Her main comment was that she needs to spend time working with the program in order to learn how to use it. I was so happy to hear her say that because before she may have said something like, "If they (the district) wants me to use powerpoint (fill in the blank), then they are going to have to pay me to do it!" I was so turned off by this attitude, but she had to come to her own realization and on her own terms to understand that you need to have some sort of desire to want to learn how to do something. No amount of money will give you this desire. It must come from within. Once again the slow process of her attitude change is more important than anything else. I am pleased thus far with the progress.

2 Comments:

Blogger Dr. Amenta-Shin said...

Amy,

Wow! Your mentee is really forcing you to walk the line between nurturing her needs & interests and addressing her issues with power and knowledge.

Do you feel like you walk on “egg shells” when dealing with her?
Does she really want a mentor? I wonder how she views your role? You don’t seem to be defeated by her actions or attitude. You are very careful to analyze her needs and build on her interests.

What have you learned about yourself through this experience?
Dr. Gina

March 30, 2005 at 1:15 PM  
Blogger amyb said...

Dr. Gina,
Yes, I do walk on egg shells with her and I know that I am not the only one. Unfortunately people at our work give me messages to give to her because they are afraid of her reaction. I would have to think that in a different work environment like in the private sector this type of behavior would not be tolerated.
I have learned a lot about myself through this work relationship as well as through this new mentor relationship. I've learned to not get hyper active when she gets upsets and rants and raves about something (throwing a temper tantrum). I used to get ill to my stomach when she would get upset about something, but now I just blow her off and try to not let it bother me. I've also learned that her behavior are not a reflection of me, but a reflection of her and her character. When I hear her tell stories about how she "went off" on someone, I think to myself, I'm so glad I'm not like that. I am not the type of person to brag about yelling at someone or putting someone in there place. I do avoid conflict which isn't great, but I would rather avoid it than cause a major scene. This relationship causes me grief bt I try to remember why I do what I do and then move on.

March 31, 2005 at 5:01 PM  

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